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Unlike the news and media, I won’t use this post to preach ad nauseam the difference between a riot and a protest. I think we all know the difference and if we don’t know the difference by now, we need to pull our heads up out of the sand. I have been keenly watching the split-screen action on tv switching back and forth between the riots and the protests. Peaceful protests usually happen in the daytime and are an offshoot of Martin Luther King Jr.’s philosophy of using non-violent means to reform the system and or achieve justice. Unruly riots usually happen when dark falls and are an offshoot of Malcolm X’s philosophy of using violent means to reform the system and or achieve justice. Of course, what makes the protests occurring today different from the protests of the past are the racial diversity that is on display. The crowds makeup is mostly that of young adults, college-aged students, and teenagers of all ethnicities.

The one thing I am hearing over and over is that the peaceful protesters just want to talk. They want guidance from the older generations on how to protest and they want policemen to befriend them, not to block them. After a couple of days of protesting in Atlanta, the next generation said the third day was what made the difference. What was the difference? It came down to one cop, a young white cop who met the protesters at the blockade formed by police. This one cop looked at the protestors and asked them, “What do you want?” The protesters said, “We want to walk.” The cop said, “I’ll walk with you. Let’s go.” And off they went, with the cop leading the pack and talking to protesters all along the way. The protesters claim that rather their mayor or their city’s celebrities yelling at them, they just wanted someone to talk to . . . rather than the cops treating them like criminals, they just wanted to be heard. A lady from the local media’s news channel interviewed the cop and told him that he was being called a hero. The cop’s response was “I’m not a hero.”

At the same time this peaceful protest was happening, rioters were gathered in a different spot with a news camera on them as well. I won’t waste my time talking about the rioters. Those who are peacefully protesting have a just cause and deserve to be heard. But riots should be expected in communities that won’t listen to peaceful protesters. I am certainly not advocating riots, only stating that they are often the end results for people who over a long period of time feel their voice has not been heard.

Here is what we as communities need to acknowledge: George Floyd and many other men of color should not have died at the hands of police and that justice should be served. I am not saying these men of color were all completely innocent. The underreported side of these encounters usually do tell a side where a minor crime was committed, arrest was resisted, and authority was undermined. None of these are good things, however in most of the cases made public, the actions of the cop do not fit the nature of the crime. For example, you don’t kill someone for stealing a candy bar.

I have long been a proponent of churches and communities hosting racial reconciliation roundtables. We need to be able to sit down at the table with others who look and talk differently than we do and have a civil conversation. I think we all have a lot to learn. But what I am learning in this latest episode is that we need to have next generation roundtables. We need to get the generations together, of all colors, to sit down and talk about what is happening and why it is happening. Where is the next generation coming from and why are they so passionate about what they believe? What have older generations gone through and what guidance can they offer the next generation fighting their own causes? These conversations need to happen and they need to begin happening now. This is where healing begins.

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What’s in your pocket?

 

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Principle 5: Effective evangelistic conversations connect the unchanging gospel with the specific issues people face.

Check to see what’s in your left pocket. What are you carrying around? Keys, a phone, tissue, a wipe? I was recently asked this question and just happened to have chap-stick. Now, how can you use what you pulled out of your pocket with your left hand to build a bridge to the gospel (let’s call that your right hand). My reply was God created your lips (Creation), but they at times become chappy (Fall), and that chap-stick applied (Rescue) will restore your lips (Restoration) . . . likewise when you apply Christ to your life, you are rescued from your fallen sinful nature and restored to glorify God in word and in deed.

Jesus used everyday objects to teach spiritual truths. Let’s do the same and use everyday objects to teach everyday people the gospel story everywhere we go. I have a long ways to go. We are all at different stages in our sharing Jesus with others journey. I am comfortable with passing out outreach cards but not as comfortable asking my waiter/waitress if I can pray for him or her. God can grow me to the point where asking a simple question to a waiter/waitress will become common place. Here’s another example of my witnessing growth:

Last week, I needed to get my car battery replaced so I made my way down to the local auto parts store. Mario was the name of the store employee I came into contact with. Through conversation, I found out where Mario was from and that he liked working outside. In replacing my car battery, Mario got some reprieve from being inside all day because he was able to venture out into God’s creation. With the sun shining and trees in the background, I talked to Mario about creation as God’s country. Mario was meticulous in his work and I thanked him for rescuing my car and restoring its battery. Before leaving, I made sure to mention to Mario that like my car battery, Jesus restores us all from the fall of sin by coming to our rescue and restoring us.

You may think this conversation came easy to me, but inside I was freaking out. I felt God calling me to speak up for his name but I wasn’t sure how. I remembered the verse that if I was ashamed to speak of him to others, he would be ashamed of me in his glory (Luke 9:26) and felt some positive pressure. Then things didn’t go as planned. I was able to get creation in, but the conversation came to a standstill and I felt the Holy Spirit say wait. In the end and with the help of a friend, I was able to present the gospel in conversation! Could I have done more? Sure. I could have asked Mario if he understood the gospel and if he wanted to accept Jesus as Lord, but perhaps I would have freaked out even more. We have to grow into sharing our faith, practice sharing, and become comfortable in and with the evangelistic process.

I am convinced that in today’s social-media driven world, we will need to become effective conversationalists for the sake of the gospel. This is true for the virtual world but even more so for the real world, where people are craving for real community. Dr. Reid provides five practical ways to engage people in conversation: (1) Share your life story! (2) Ask good questions like “what is your faith background?” or “What does a real Christian look like?” (3) Affirm and encourage unbelievers because they are still made in God’s image, (4) Speak to the person’s mind and heart, and (5) Connect to people beneath the surface by finding out their passions and pains and then allow them to open up to you.

It’s a challenge to start a conversation using an everyday object and then transition it to the gospel story, but it’s a challenge you can overcome with the help of the Holy Spirit!

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Organic Evangelism; A Lifestyle

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Principle 3: Shifting from giving an evangelistic presentation to having an evangelistic conversation takes pressure off the witness and relates the gospel more clearly to an unbeliever.

Recently, a friend proposed to me that all of the churches in our local area should get together and discuss ways to reach the lost. My friend is not a missionary, a preacher, or an evangelist but was making a clear point that reaching the lost ought to be first priority and ought to reach past denominational lines.

Boy, did I have a lot to say to my friend. We had a conversation! My friend has a passion for sharing Jesus with others like I do, but unfortunately, I had to throw some water on his fire. I let my friend know that our association just had one such meeting and that of the 70+ churches in the association, only five people attended. Let’s face the facts. This pains me to say, but I think the average church member’s attitude toward evangelism is “I’ve got mine (salvation) so I’m good to go. Someone else can tell others about Jesus.”

I didn’t want my friend’s fire to burn out completely so I told him some good news too. I told him that the idea he had of all of the churches getting together could work in theory and that everyone attending from different denominations could still leave the building as friends. In the associational meeting I attended with four other like-minded individuals, we learned about an idea called “affinity evangelism groups.” Affinity evangelism groups represent a way to share your faith with others using the gifts, abilities, and personality that God has given you.

So using a different term, the association and state levels are promoting the same idea that Dr. Reid is in his book Share Jesus Without Freaking Out. Dr. White, Executive Director of the Georgia Baptist Convention shared with us how he met people at a place where they felt comfortable in doing something they loved and then led these individuals to the Lord. Hunting, Biking, Fishing, Sports, Crocheting, Technology, Shopping, etc. represent a multitude of affinity groups whereby a Christian can join up with unbelievers and have gospel impact.

We don’t just have to invite lost people to church. We can go to their culture and on their terms speak their heart language. We can share our passions and pains together and relate these to Creation, Fall, Rescue, and Restoration. And we can even do this on our daily commute as we converse with people in a plane, train, or bus.

There is no one-size fits all, cookie-cutter approach to evangelism. We are wired differently and we come with different interests, hobbies, and backgrounds. Think about it this way: A 300 lb. person is going to have a different workout plan for preparing to run a mile than a 120 lb. individual will have. There is a direct connection between physical fitness and spiritual witness. Reid says, “Just like with diet and exercise, a life of evangelism is lifestyle change, not a quick fix.”

Sharing Jesus without freaking out takes practice! The more evangelistic conversations you have, the less pressure you will feel. Talking to others about Jesus ought to come naturally. You shouldn’t feel awkward and nervous when you talk about who or what you love. And over time, you will notice that sharing Jesus with others has become so organic in your life, that it has become a lifestyle.

You can do this! If you’re a church member stuck in presentation mode, you can do this! Look at every conversation as a ministry opportunity. Look at evangelism as the natural outflow during conversation of an inner joy you can’t keep within. Before you notice, you will be sharing Jesus with others without even thinking about it!