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Ready or not, here We come!

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As the church goes, so goes next generation ministry. The two are so intertwined together that there is no escaping the fact. But is the church going in the direction that God wants it to go? That’s a question only you and your church can answer. However, I think I can provide you with some help as your team tries to formulate an answer.

Is your church gauging success by the 3 B’s – buildings, budgets, and bodies or is your church gauging success by the 3 D’s – decisions, disciples, and development of those disciples?

Is your church growing in Christ and not just growing in number? Are hearts being converted, disciples being made, and fruit being born? In other words, are lives being transformed by the written and living powerful Word of God?

Are your people gaining clean hands, a pure heart, and a sound mind?

Is your church growing in grace, godliness, and good works? Philippians 1:11 and Colossians 1:10 teach us that “the mark of a church that is growing in Christ is the fruit of righteousness and good works.”

In his book Growing True Disciples, George Barna writes, “True discipleship builds churches known for their culture of love, commitment, and service rather than for their events, information, and programs.” Does your church have this type of disciple-making culture?

If so, you can expect next generation ministry to flourish in your context!

Near the turn of the century, Robert Lewis wrote a book called The Church of Irresistible Influence. The book was prophetic in the sense that delineated what the church’s witness should look like in this century compared to last’s. Lewis realized his church in Arkansas had been burning bridges when they should have been been building them all along. He said, “my first error was in trying to convince a postmodern world of truth when it rejects truth . . . in our culture . . . truth is consistently and wrongly defined as a matter of one’s preference or perspective, if it exists at all”

In our century, reason gave way to experience as “I think, therefore I am was replaced with I feel, therefore I know . . . maybe.” Objective truth went out the window and was replaced with subjectivity on every level. Lewis writes, “To our age, truth is nothing more than talk — especially when you don’t show it. The eye, not the ear, is the decisive organ. Our postmodern world is tired fo words — it wants real. Real is everything. Real is convincing . . . We are trying to build bridges on truth alone, while the world is crying out for proof. Proof!”

Lewis writes next, “Our design is wrong. We need bridges that balance public proclamation with congregational incarnation. Bridges that are suspended by the steel cables of the Great Commandment as well as the Great Commission . . . [our age doesn’t despise] belief. Rather, it is an age that wants to believe, desperately so . . . But it trusts nothing except what it can see and, more importantly, experience.” This postmodern world needs not only to hear the Word of truth, they must see the Word made flesh — “A living proof — an irrefutable incarnation.”

This is where your church comes in and this is why the early church exploded in number. We can’t just do church. We got to be the church!

Lewis ends by saying, “What the world waits to see is whether what we have is better than what they have. Just think what bridges we could build if we truly followed the example of the New Testament church. We would go beyond seeker-sensitive to a new frontier of being community-admired. We would be known, not just by the corner we inhabit, but by the city with which we interact. And people would be drawn to God, not because of the weekly show in our churches, but by the irrefutable lifestyles we incarnate. On both sides of the postmodern chasm, there is a growing emptiness. For the church, it is due to a lack of radical, courageous, and sacrificial faith: If our Christianity is real, let’s live it. For the world, this emptiness is from a lack of captivating, life-giving proof: If your Christianity is real, let’s see it.

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Drilling down

In yesterday’s post, I scratched the surface in discussing some of the many benefits brought on by Covid-19. Today, I want to drill down deep into one particular benefit: digital discipleship and how it has been fast-tracked.

Let me begin by stating some generalities about the virus’s impact. For many, this initial interruption in life stirred some excitement because it was something new, but now this long-term disruption has turned those same feelings into angst. We are all grieving somewhat because we have all experienced a sense of loss knowing that things will never be the same. Many people are feeling anxious in mind, isolated in home, and uncertain about their future. People are evaluating their lifestyles and asking themselves what they can do with and what they can do without. People are having to constantly evaluate their life choices as their lives are being daily transformed. This is causing many people, Christian and non-Christian alike, to seek answers out by reading their Bible and by praying more. People are doing one of two things during this crisis: They are leaning into God and into their church or they are checking out on God and checking out on their church. Taking off from church or hanging back on God is not the way to go, even if you say you are just waiting for things to return to normal. This is because life moves on. It’s kind of like waiting for the Lord Jesus to return. You know he is coming back but it doesn’t give you permission to sit idle.

Covid-19 has gotten us all out of the status quo. It has forced us to become comfortable with the uncomfortable because we can’t control the uncontrollable’s. Before Covid-19, I had heard about virtual small groups or what many would call digital discipleship groups, but I wasn’t promoting the idea because quite honestly, it wasn’t my preference. In a pre-Covid-19 world, I would opt for having in-person discipleship any day over having digital small groups. I knew many young people preferred to meet online and many wouldn’t come to church until there was some kind of online engagement, but in some ways, I felt this was cop-out and in other ways, I just didn’t want to meet them where they were. You could just as well say I didn’t want the world to go in that digital direction. But in a post-Covid-19 world, there’s no turning back and my preferences on this matter don’t mean a thing.

Social media must be used as a tool for discipleship and engagement. Techies are learning just as much as we are in these times. Zoom will get even better with the interactive experience they provide us. Facebook now offers messenger rooms for up to 50 people to meet via video. These type of companies are just scratching the surface as their efforts to upgrade have been accelerated just as much as has our changing behaviors. We had to do something different than we were doing to reach the next generation because we weren’t reaching them where they were.

Churches are now seizing the moment, the 168, meaning the 168 hours in a week to minister to people. Sunday morning or Wednesday night aren’t the only things that matter and they never should have been. Churches should be open 24/7 to minister to a hurting community, and not just its own members. And yes, a lot of this ministry does occur online. Digital technology should assist us in our incarnational ministry, but it should never replace it. For example, once churches re-open, youth should still meet in-person, but a lot of the Zoom meetings and TicTok videos are going to continue. And shouldn’t they, if that’s where the next generation is spending hours upon hours every day?

Having established the fact that I now embrace digital discipleship, let me share with you some findings about how the next generation is viewing ministry in a post-Covid-19 world. If you are a bit older like me, this may be hard for you to understand, but the next generation is not experiencing Covid-19 in the same way that you and I are. Gen Z has grown up in a world of active shooters, international terrorism, and cyber predators. They have had to learn how to live and think about things in a radically different way than we did. For example, Gen Z can never remember a time where going to school, airports, etc. wasn’t safe. Whereas Covid-19 has forced many of us magnify the topics of safety and health, the next generation has always been concerned about their own safety and health. And as I have written previously, all of this has turned Gen Z into a resilient bunch, particularly the class of 2020, as I believe they will forever go down as the face of Gen Z.

The next generation is still in school and many are facing screen fatigue. By the time they have watched countless classroom videos and engaged in all of their social media and frequented websites, many are putting church on the back-burner. In the last 4 weeks, only 33% have livestreamed a Sunday morning worship service and 63% say they have not livestreamed their church or another church’s worship service. This is what I meant when I said “checking out” or “taking off.” If families can go to church together, I don’t see why they can’t go to church in their home together.

With all of the screen time that the next generation is logging, they have their own preferences. They see right through virtual recorded polished presentations and prefer that which is live and in the moment (remember TikToc). Gen Z prefers engagement over streamed content. In Barna’s free webcast yesterday on the state of the church (where I’m getting most of my information for this post), it was said, “For the longest time, it was thought ‘content is king,’ but now whereas content was king, ‘engagement is emperor.'” All this to say that offering the next gen an online experience is not enough. We must find ways to connect with them in a meaningful way. Of course, this is where digital discipleship comes into play.

Gen Z, also known as the Connected Generation, feels the impact of broad, global trends more than they feel loved and supported by others close to them. What this statement means is that we often think the next generation is doing well because they are young. But the research points out that of all the generations, Gen Z is the most lonely, board, and insecure. We struggle to empathize with their plight because we can’t see beneath the surface of what is happening inside of them beyond all of their “friendships” and screen time. This disruption is occurring at a very vulnerable moment in their life and as things are so fragile that Gen Z is having to develop many new friendships.

So you may say thanks for sharing, but ask, well, what does Gen Z want out of me? Good question! I hope that is why you are visiting this site. Gen Z wants you as a next gen leader to be visible, to be there for them. They need your prayer and emotional support. They want to share with you their stories and they want to engage in Bible study, not merely listen to what you have to say. This is what they need most right now from you! Engage, ask questions, and understand that what you see on the outside may be the wrong story. You may think they are doing great and discover they are not or you may think they are doing terrible and discover they are doing great. This is exactly why you should engage and ask questions. And remember its not just what the next gen needs from us. It’s what we, the church, need from them. We need their imagination and their know-how in how to navigate this new digital reality as it pertains to digital discipleship.

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Take a little ride with me

Barna and WorldVision recently tag-teamed to produce a study called the “The Connected Generation” which documented interviews with more than 15,000 adults ages 18 to 35 in twenty-five countries and nine languages. The research was quite extensive and has been ten years in the making.

As next generation leaders, I think it is vital that we pay attention to a study that offers this much depth. You can look over key findings of the study at this link: https://theconnectedgeneration.com/key-findings/

Of all the information covered, however, the one statistic that I cannot get out of my head is that only one out of every three young adults said they had someone in their life that believed in them.

This statistic literally breaks my heart. I have had countless number of people in my life invest and believe in me. This sad statistic forces me to look in the mirror and ask myself, “Am I believing in someone in the next generation?”

The next generation is often criticized, but if they have no mentors, no coaches, isn’t that somewhat of an indictment on the next generation’s leaders? I think it is.

As this latest study revealed, Millennials and Gen Z aren’t the next generation; they are the now generation! They are not an add-on to the church, but rather an active agent; not a consumer, but rather a contributor.

So, the question becomes, “How are you preparing future leaders for the arts and sciences, for economics and politics, for business and ministry?” Vocational discipleship is extremely important to the next generation and they are looking for coaches and mentors at church. Your job is to help facilitate this new reality: the workplace has become the new church.

This past Sunday, a young man approached me and asked me to mentor him. For starters, I was honored to be asked. It might now work this way for you. You might be the one who needs to ask a young man or woman if you could mentor him or her.

So, how will I mentor this new protege of mine? I have learned the last thing to do is give my mentee a book and tell him to go away. That practice does not do either party any good. You must first start by understanding that mentoring is a way for you to grow as much as your mentee.

So, how will I mentor this new protege of mine? I will take him along for the ride of his life. I will let him do ministry with me. He will do what I do. He will feel what I feel. He will see what I see and he will hear what I hear.

Wasn’t this the way of Jesus? Didn’t he tell some guys to come and follow him? Really, what Jesus told his disciples was “come and take a walk with me.” But, this was no short walk. This was a journey, a day-by-day walk beside Jesus and trusting him that he was taking them exactly where they needed to go. For one disciple, it led to the most unexpected place-hanging on a cross, upside-down. Thank goodness Jesus did not tell Peter this news on Day 1. This ride may not always be fun, but it will be worth giving up your very life for.

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The Discipleship Challenge

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I offered a discipleship challenge to my church this past weekend. The challenge was to start Discipleship groups (D-groups) that operate out of and from within Sunday school classes. To understand how D-groups work, just watch the above message, beginning at the 36 minute mark. The response to my message was good! I believe we will soon have D-groups up and running at the student and adult level.

I have developed curriculum for Student D-groups in the M.A.P.’s Journal. The journal contains one scripture per week that students will need to memorize for their D-group meetings. D-Group Leaders for Student D-Groups will need to purchase Next Generation and Discipleship to obtain the teaching passage used in the M.A.P.’s Journal (what I call the MAP). Adults may use the M.A.P.’s Journal for D-groups as well. My recommendation is that adults read the entire chapter (that their weekly memory verse is located in) before their D-group meeting. Students simply need to read the passage that the memory verse is located in.

For example, the memory verse for Week 1 of the M.A.P.’s Journal is Luke 14:27. Students would need to read Luke 14:25-33 while adults would need to read all of Luke 14. The D-group leader needs to go one step farther than his or her students by reading the online IVP New Testament commentary offered for free at www.biblegateway.com for the week’s selected passage (students) or chapter (adults). This way, the D-group leader will be able to facilitate discussion amongst students. The end goal for D-groups is increased Christ-likeness for all group members!

Having talked about my first two books above, I leave you with a promo for my third: While driving around, I came across two church signs recently. One church sign read “youth group, fun and games, Wed. 7 pm.” The other church sign read “student ministry, Wed. 7 pm.” In my latest book The Student Ministry Time Machine, I talk about where student ministry has been (the first sign), where student ministry is (the second sign), and where student ministry is going (read my book!). For the purpose of this post, I will simply say next generation ministry and discipleship go hand in hand!

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What time is it?

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Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (read below) represents one of the bedrock biblical passages underlying the theological foundations of next generation ministry:

“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates (ESV).”

Recall that God had given the Israelites the Ten Commandments through his servant Moses on Mount Sinai (Exodus 19-20), yet now Moses is reminding Israel of these commandments (Deut 5). Deut 6:4 is known as the Shema. Traditional Jews often make these words the last words of their dying breath and have their children say the Shema as a prayer before turning in for the night. It is important that the next generation understand that God is not many, but One.

In cross-referencing with Matthew 22:37, Jesus echoes that one is to love the one true God with all their heart, soul, and strength as Deut 6:5 is often referred to as one of two commandments (the other being to love one’s neighbor as oneself) that Jesus gave. In other words, the commandments, albeit the Ten Commandments, or the Two commandments are of the upmost important and obedience to the commands is equated to love for God (John 14:15).

Thus it makes perfect sense that leaders are to abide by these commands and that parents are commanded to teach these commands to the next generation (Deut 6:6). Though one is not saved by obeying the commands (an impossible task), one’s love relationship with God is enhanced. Parents and leaders are to impress the commands upon the children entrusted into their care (Deut 6:7). Parents are to talk about the commands at home, on the road, when their children go to bed, and when their children wake up (Deut 6:8-9).

To simplify understanding the different times a parent can impress God’s Word upon their children through the course of a given day, I have identified four opportune times according to the passage at hand.

Meal Time: Research has proven time and time again the benefits of sitting around the table at home with families eating together. However, practically, meal time today has become an on-the-go event or a sit in front of a screen event. If you do sit around the table, have your child put up his or her phone and talk about the day’s events and activities. Bring God’s Word to the table (not literally, although you can) and talk about how God’s Word is relevant to the items being discussed. Mainly, just show love to your child by showing how much you care and that you are interested in their life.

Drive Time: After breakfast time at the table, or if you’re like most parents today, breakfast on the way to school, parents can use the transition time from home to school in the morning or from school to home in the afternoon to enforce biblical ideas and teachings. Parents could say, “Remember, son, you are a missionary on your campus today” as their child steps out of the car door.  Perhaps instead of the traditional, “how was your day at school?”, parents opt for, “How did you see God move in and around your life at school today?” or “Did you have a chance to share Christ in word or in deed with anyone at school today?”

Morning Time: Parents can not only wake their child up in the morning, but start the day off with a blessing or a prayer. Have you ever woken up to your mom saying, “Rise and shine and Give God the glory?” I have.  It’s a reminder that this is the day that the Lord has made and that we are to rejoice and be glad in it.

Bed Time: What better way to end a day than in prayer or Bible story time? The Story by Max Lucado is easy to read and comprehensible for children to understand, while Richard Ross and Gus Reyes has proven the effectiveness of strengthening the parent-teen relationship at night in their resource 3o Days, where parents and teens spend 10 minutes together for 30 nights in a row, using Scripture as their guide.

It’s always a good time to talk to your children about the Lord!

 

 

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Stick-men Theology

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Perhaps you have heard the age-old adage, “a picture says a thousand words.” If you could invert the family in the picture above by placing the individuals in opposite order (shortest to tallest), and then draw a lined arrow which continues through the last family member, you would be looking at a picture of Next Generation Ministry.

We have become all too familiar with this picture of family members in the form of stick figures placed on the back window of vehicles. We like to count the number of figures and then also notice how many pets the family owns. Pets aside, a family is a unit that grows together. Through thick and then, a family hangs tight. I am sure you have heard of the expression, “a family that prays together stays together.” Most have rephrased this phrase today to say, “a family that plays together stays together.” That mantra has some credence but Scripture is clear that godliness holds value for “all things” while physical training is only of “some” value (I Tim 4:8).

A family left to themselves is never enough. The Bible has mandated in the Old Testament and the New Testament that the family partner with the church in the all-important task of raising children up in the way of the Lord. It truly does take a village to raise a child. Though parents will always be the primary disciple-makers of their children, parents should use the assistance of the local church in order to become a Great Commission family.

In NGM, family ministry is important, but there is more to the picture. Families look different today and churches must remember the spiritual orphan while planning. In NGM, church members can become the adopted spiritual parents for the spiritual orphans in the church. Michael and Michelle Anthony note in A Theology for Family Ministry, “what was once simply referred to as a Nuclear Family in North America has morphed into labels such as Non-Traditional Families, Fragmented Families, Single-Parent Families, Gay-Partner Families, Blended Families, and beyond.” Each church must wrestle with how they will minister to the different types of families found in their community.

The arrow that runs through the ages is the biblical strategy that NGM employs across its age-graded ministries (preschool, children, youth, college). In reality, multiple arrows could run through the age-graded ministry stick figures, representing multiple strategies such as the NGM’s mission strategy, education strategy, evangelism strategy, worship strategy, and so on.

The goal is neither Christian education nor spiritual formation in and of itself, but rather Christian formation. Holly Allen and Christine Ross define “Christian formation” as the process of Christians being formed, transformed, and conformed to the image of Christ by the Holy Spirit. Christians are actively involved in this process both personally and communally.[1] Christian formation is the exact point and place where Christian education and spiritual formation meet. Michelle Anthony and Megan Marshman state, “It’s in the marriage of information and formation that we have transformation.”[2]

Transforming students (birth-college) into disciples of Christ is the goal and NGM is the discipleship strategy of choice for many churches!

[1] Holly C. Allen and Christine L. Ross, Intergenerational Christian Formation: Bringing the Whole Church Together in Ministry, Community, and Worship (Downers Grove, IL: IVP Academic, 2012), 21.

 

[2] Anthony and Marshman, 7 Family Ministry Essentials, 81.

 

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Scorpions and NGM, oh My!

I live in the country and am surrounded by trees.  I see all kind of critters.  At times, I observe beautiful animals at work in nature that are rarely seen by others such as woodpeckers, finches, red foxes, and chipmunks.  At other times, I encounter hideous animals which I wish had not crossed my path.  For example, a large oak tree stands next to my back porch.  This tree has a dark hole in it whereby I can stand on my back porch and shine a flashlight down into the hole to see what has crawled inside.  Over the past two years, the hole has been occupied by a rat snake, a possum (which jumped out at me), hornets, and creature(s) you will discover below.

Seeing the best and the worst just comes with the territory.  What I am about to tell you next is the worst and reads like a horror story.  A few nights ago, I was walking in my bare feet in my house with the lights off around midnight when I nearly stepped on a scorpion (think tail up and pinchers out).  As you can tell from the above excerpt, this sighting comes as no surprise.  I knew what needed to be done.  I immediately went to access my pocket knife so that I could divide the scorpion into two.  What happened next, however, is something that I would not have predicted.  Think about the movie Alien (or Tremors) with the little mouth (or worms) coming out of the alien’s (or tremor’s) big mouth or what happens to Gremlins once they touch water.

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Scorpion babies are born alive and not hatched from eggs like insects (sometimes, mother scorpions even eat their babies).  Once I pressed my knife blade on the back of the queen scorpion, seven baby scorpions jumped out and scattered going in all directions. Now, it was incumbent upon me to save my feet and at the same time track down and kill eight scorpions.  The beast had multiplied in front of my eyes.  To make a long story short, my precious feet were not harmed and I won the crusade by massacring the scorpion empire.  But you may be asking yourself at this point, “what does this horror story have to do with next generation ministry (NGM)?”

Before I give you the “what” answer, you need to understand that any ministry or desired ministry outcomes that you have must start with the question, “Why?” I learned this “what’s your why” principle from next generation guru Dr. Jeff Lovingood, author of Make it Last.  Likewise, Simon Sinek, who wrote Start with Why, says “the why” provides a framework upon which organizations can be built, movements can be lead, and people can be inspired.  “The why” has nothing to do with money or making a profit.

The purpose or “the why” of NGM is to make disciples (Matt. 28:19-20).  Dr. Aubrey Malphurs has correctly stated that a Christian is a disciple.  Jesus expects disciples to grow in their faith from the moment they become his follower.  Next generation ministry is a discipleship process whereby students from the cradle through college worship, study, and serve together as they transition from one life stage to the next.

NGM produces a unity and cohesiveness between age-graded groups.  Overlap occurs in and between preschool, children, youth, and collegiate ministries making the discipleship strategy a team approach.  Since no age group or ministry is left out or considered less than another, disciples are made.  NGM is about multiplying disciples, not dividing ministries.  Students who have been discipled then develop into adults who marry and multiply in the form of Christian families, beginning the discipleship process all over again in next generation ministry, this time with their babies.

Unlike the horror story I shared, the gospel represents a beautiful awe-inspiring redemptive story.  Multiplication is a theme in both stories, but multiplying disciples, not scorpions, is what Jesus has commanded his followers to do.  NGM is a strategy used to accomplish the end-goal of making disciples.